Scholar Lawriniang, Nongthliew Village
Ka juk kaba ngi im mynta kam don shuh ia ka shongsuk shongshngaiñ la ka long ia u rangbah khamtam eh ia ki samla kynthei. Kat haba phai ngi iohi da la ki jong ki khmat ba ka jingieit jingtiplem ka sdang ban duh noh, ka jingshah thombor ki khynnah kynthei lane wat ia ki rangbah briew ka jyllei bha ha kine ki sngi. Watla ka sorkar india ka la buh ia ki aiñ iada na ka bynta ka hok ki kynthei (Womens Right) ha ki bynta ba pher ba pher, kum ka Special Marriage Act, 1954, PWDV Act,2005, ka Child Marriage Prohibition Act 2006, Nangta ka aiñ ban khang ia ka jingshah leh lane kren kynshleiñ ki kynthei ha ki jaka trei ia kaba la tip kum ka Sexual Harassment of Women at the workplace (Prevention, Prohibition and Redressal) Act 2013, bad bun ruh kiwei kiwei ki aiñ iada kiba ka sorkar ka la pynkhreh na ka bynta ka hok ki kynthei bad ia kane lah ban shem ha ka IPC kum ka section 312,351,352, 354 A-,379, 375,376. Kine baroh ki section ki don ha la ki bynta bynta ban pynshitom ia kink kino ki briew kiba iuhroit ia ka hok ki kynthei hapoh ri India.
Hynrei watla bun ki aiñ pynshitom ba ka sorkar ka maham ia kino kino kiba iuhroit ia ka hok ki kynthei (Womens Right), pynban kiba bun ki briew kim salia ia kata bad ki ialeh pyrshah ia kine ki ain, wat hapdeng bun ki aiñ ba la maham ban pynshitom ia ki riew shim kabu, pynban ki kam pyntriem ki kam thombor ia ki kynthei ki jyllei bha ha kine ki sngi kine ki jia wat shi iing shi sem (U kni ia la ki pyrsa, u hynmen ia ki para bad kiwei kiwei). Hato kine baroh ki dei namar ka jingtlot ki bor ka aiñ? lane ka dei ka jingbym phikir hi da lade ia lade. Hato iano yn kynnoh iano yn kdew kti, ka long ka por kaba shitom sat ban jubab. Ngam kwah ban kdew kti iano iano hynrei kaba nga kwah ka long ban ia thir jingmut thymmai ha kaba ia dei bad ki kynthei, ba kumno kin iada bad phikir ia lade ha kum kane ka por ba mynta ka bym don shuh ka shongsuk shongsngain la ka long ha ka leit ka wan ka trei ka ktah bad la jan ki liang baroh, i kumba ka jingiatip lem para briew ka la jan duh.
Katto katne ki mat ban ia thir jingmut lang kumno ban iada ia lade ki long:-
Ki kynthei ki dei ban sngewthuh nyngkong eh shwa ia lade ba ki dei ki kynthei, ha kano ka bynta phi don phi dei ban tip bha ia lade. Namar nga lap bun ki kynthei kim sngewthuh ialade ba ki dei ki kynthei, bunsien ka wanrah ka jingbabe ha ki hadien ba ki la kynduh bun ki jingeh.
Ki kynthei ki dei ban long kiba sian kum u bsein jemnud kum ka paro: Ngi im ha kane ka juk Social media mynta kata ka juk ba la kiew sted ka bor jong ka teknoloji (Technology) bunsien ka wanrah ka jingsngewsih haba ngim nang ban bishar bniah bin pa bin, tengteng ha ka jingtlotbor i kumba ka lynti kaba phi iaid ka lam sha ban im, tip ma ha kaba kut ka long ka jingiap.
Ki Kynthei bad ka Social Media: Ha kane ka juk Social Media, kum ki Whatsapp, Facebook, Instagrame, bad kiwei kiwei. Kane ka long ka bynta kaba kham ma bha khamtam eh ia ki kynthei ba dang rit rta (Teenage) namar ha ka social media phin ia kynduh 30 jait 30 sker ki briew ki ban wan ha ka jingim jong phi. Bunsien ki briew kiba phi ia shem ki long kiba shida ki ba luilui khamtam ka ktien ba kren kin long ki kyntien ba jali ja um, bad bunsien ki kynthei ki ngop noh tang ha kaba sngap ia ki sur jali ja um jong ki khlem pat da kynduh lane ithuh shisien ruh, hynrei ki kloi ban shaniah tylli tyllan ha u ba jali ja um ka sur kren. Pynban ynda la kynduh u long da khongpong bunsien ki jot noh ruh tang namar ki ktien jali ja um. Balei ka jia ka jingshah shet ha social media, bun ki shah shet ha ka bor ka pisa bad kiwei kiwei tengteng ka wanrah ruh ka jingjia ba sngewsih, kane baroh dei tang namar ki ktien jali ja um, hooid ym baroh kiba phin shem kin long kumta tangba to tip.pat kein u soh ba pyut u don bor kham khlain arshah ban ia ki soh ba bha.
Ki Kynthei bad ka Shongkha Shongman: Ngam ju lah ban klet ia ki ktien u Kaitor ka ri khasi U U.N Sun u ong: “Ka long kaba da jwat haduh katta katta ban wad ia ki Rangdajied bad ki thei Sotti ha kajuk ban sa wan” kane ka kyntien i kumbaka la jia mynta, Balei ki kynthei ki duh noh ia ka jinglong sotti wat ha ki por ba dang rit rta, bad kaba dang long kaba pyrshah ia ka Child Marriage Prohibition Act 2006, namar dei kane ka por 15-18 snem ba ka jingmut jingpyrkhat ka dang khluit bha bun ki jot noh khamtam ha ka social media mynta bun ki shah pah shah phon bad ki ngop shisha, kane ka jia wat ia kiba la heh la san ruh. Kumta ban lait na kane kaba nyngkong eh ka long ba khlem da ithuh shuwa ia u briew kam ju dei ka rukom ban ia poi kha poi man kane ka long pyrshah wat ia ka riti dustur Khasi namar ngim tip u ba kumno u briew ba phi ia poi kha poi man. Nangta la ka dei bad u Samla ba phi ia ithuh ithaw ba ia ieit ia jan ia shaniah bha pat ban lait na ka jingiapoi kha bymdei kiar na kaba leit kynduh ha ki jaka kynjah, namar to tip ba ka jingiaieit jong phi ar ngut kamju bynnud ban ai ia la u ne ka baieit jong phi.
Kumno ki kynthei kin iada ban lait na ka kam shah thombor: Kane ka dei kawei na ki kam ba shyrkhei tam ba ki kynthei ki dei ban phikir bha, namar shisien ba la mad ia kane kan wanrah jingsngewsih shi jingim ia phi bad bunsien kan kylla long ka jingkhuslai (Depression) ruh haba mad ia kane ka kam poh jait poh rati. Te kumno ban lait na kane ka kam ba shyrkhei:-
Nyngkong eh ki kynthei ki dei ban da bishar bniah bha ia ka leit ka wan jong phi, kiar na ka ba iaid miet palat la ka long ha kano kano ka por khamtam haki jaka bym shngain.
Kiar na kaba phong ia ki sopti ba shiteng met namar kine ki lah ban khring ia ka jingmut u rang khamtam leilei ia ki briew bala kyrni ha u drug (Drugs Addict) kin iohi ia phi kum ki thapbalieh.
Kiar na kaba phi leit kynduh ia uno uno u briew u ba phim ithuh u ba shu wan ha phi tang ha ki maïa (Facebook, Whatsapp).
Kiar na ki paralok kynthei kiba sniew, ka jingsngew shaniah palat para kynthei khamtam ha ki paralom kynthei kiba sniew ka kham pynjot arshah ban ia kaba phi shaniah ia u rang.
Jied ia la ki paralom kiba kumno ba phi dei ban ia iaid lang wat la ka long para kynthei ruh, namar kane ka juk kam shngain shuh la ka long ia ki kynthei ne shynrang.
Kren ki kyntien ba don akor ia kiwei khamtam ia ki shynrang, wat leh ne kren kyntnit ia ki ioh ba kin shim kabu ia phi bun rukom.
Kiar na ka ba dih ia kano kano ka jingdih pynbuaid, namar nga lap bun ki kynthei ki ba dih ha ki party bad bun ki ksan hana ba tang ka beer kam leilei, phewse ka lam pynban sha ka jingjot.
Kaba khadduh eh ka long kohnguh ia ka jingsneng i Mei i Pa, namar ma ki ki tip kham bha ban ia kaba phi tip shaphang ka lawei ka jong phi. Dei ka jingkohnguh kaba lah ban pyllait ia phi na kiei kiei kiba sngewsoh baroh.
Jingpynkut: Ka long ka por kaba shitom bha ban im ha kine ki sngi lada ngim lah ban bishar bniah bad lada ngim don ia kata ka bor synshar ha lade (Self Control), kumta nga kyntu ba ki dei ban da bishar bniah bha kumba phi bishar ia ki shiah haba bam dohkha. Haba phi iaid phi ieng khi trei phi ktah ka donkam ba phin long ki ba adkar bha ha ki liang baroh, bad ka don kamruh ban im ha ka bor ka jingduwai ha U Blei u ba phi ngeit bad shaniah skhem.
Ka jingiada ia lade ka dei ban mih na ka jingmut jingpyrkhat jong phi hi, ym na ka jong kiwei. Kine ki long tang ki mat jingaijingmut ba lyngkot eh ba nga kwah ban ia pashat lang, nga ngeit phi hi phi tip kham bha shaphang ia lade, kumno ban trei? Kumno ban iaid ban ieng.
Khublei Shibun.
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